Fifty Shades of Brokenness?

Fifty Shades of Brokenness?


Valentine’s Day is a day set aside for remembering the ones we love, honor and respect. A day of flowers, chocolates, cards and sharing the special joys of serving and putting others in your life first.

This year however, it will be remembered as the opening day of “Fifty Shades of Grey”; a movie and book that glorifies sexual perversion, abuse, pornography and lust.  And it’s alright when your consenting adults, no matter what the age.

I’m sure the Valentine’s Day opening date must have been a joke, because nothing about it has anything to do with love, kindness and respect. I am saddened to hear of the huge openings as people rush to see the movie lured by tantalizing advertisements, curiosity or secret interests. 

Although I have not seen the movie and have chosen not to read the book, I have read a lot about it from people who have. My dear friend Heather Mertens has written extensively about the perils of the book and movie.  At first I was concerned for her and worried that is was the wrong subject choice. But she has kept it up to some peoples’ dismay and I applaud her boldness and faithfulness to sound the alarm.  

For years I have traveled and talked with women whose lives have been broken and devastated by some form of perversion, pornography or abuse in their homes. Behind closed doors they silently keep the secret that is slowly destroying their families, home and children’s life.  These people live the real heartbreak, lives that this book and film praises and challenges us to accept as normal. 

I hear the stories of the brokenness and devastation that continues to affect their lives. There are no Valentine kisses or the joy of knowing you are loved because you are special. There is only the cruel imagination of someone who uses you as an object, instead of valuing and loving you as a precious gift.  

Have we become complacent and numb to the world we live in that immorality and evil is now acceptable?  Is it easier not to say anything and pretend it’s not happening? Are we to fill our hearts and minds with thoughts and images that deaden our senses and moral integrity?

 In Proverbs 4:23 (NIV) it says:

Above all else, guard your heart,
for everything you do flows from it.

 I know this is a heavy subject and I wanted to share my heart with you.  I finally decided to stand up and say ENOUGH!  I’m not going to keep SILENT!  

Thank you for sharing your time with me, I love you!

Lovingly, Karan

***Discussion: I do value your opinion, please let me what you think. Please pass along.   

  I love hearing from you. Hugs

8 comments on “Fifty Shades of Brokenness?

  1. Freida

    Thanks Karan for your boldness. Christians are being challenged more and more to speak up and not remain silent. The recent beheadings of our brothers in Christ and the passivity and tolerance of evil in our culture is devastating and should inflame some reaction in our hearts/soul.

    1. Karan Gleddie

      Thank you Freida, for your encouragement, I agree with you. It seems in our day in age we are going to either stand up for what is good, kind and honest or we will lose our voice all together. We have become accepting and compliant. Hugs

  2. Cheryl

    I have also not read Fifty Shades of Grey nor have I seen the movie, so I do not have anything to say about that story. However, your thoughts on the differences between being loved and valued versus used and degraded are well said. Good for you to speak out.



    1. Karan Gleddie

      Thank you Cheryl, well said. You said it short and sweet. Great Visit today let’s do it again soon. Hugs

  3. Heather

    Ps – I actually received a very good response in sharing my experience to help women, and my daughter has received a great response to her article. But there are too many women, even Christians, who want to watch and read unhealthy things. Keep being bold for Truth, my friend. God blesses that boldness. I’ve seen it in my own life!

    1. Karan Gleddie

      I agree with you, I am glad that there have been good responses it means that people are thinking about it. Love U, karan

  4. Heather

    Hi Karan,
    Thanks for sharing! But I wanted to clear up that my 20 year old daughter actually wrote the article I shared on my site. I actually reblogged it from her blog. I am not sure what though you meant by that statement that I had written about it extensively. I actually haven’t written about it much at all and mostly I have just written a few posts about it on FB. I have however shared about my personal experience that is closely related in the past. It is all destructive and important to be brought to light to help others not fall into any traps. My young daughter has been given much wisdom from the Lord and stated it better than I could have, so I shared hers instead of writing about it. Hope that clears it all up for you. 🙂
    Thank you dear friend for your prayers for my health. I treasure them and you!

    1. Karan Gleddie

      Hello dear Heather,

      Nice to hear from you, I have read everything you have written on Facebook and as far as I know in my circle you were the only one writing on the subject. I agreed with your every word, but never said to much about it accepted agreed with you. I have admired your boldness to step out on this subject as you sounded the alarm. Which many of us silently let slip by, or hoped it would go away. Makes me wonder how many others did the same. With all the hype and the mass rushing to see and read this I like you feel that more needs to be said.

      I know your daughter wrote the article beautifully and with great wisdom and I pray that people will be able to read it, that is why I sent it to your blog, I knew it was there after you sent it me.

      Blessing to you both,
      Lovingly, Karan

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